To say that Daniel Twinn lives on in his son Kurtis somehow doesn't cover the emotional and physical bond the two share.
The Langford father died recently of a rare form of cancer without ever finding a bone marrow match. But the kidney he donated to save his son's life 13 years ago is still going strong.
"It was a long battle he fought really hard, but unfortunately, there wasn't a match for (Dan)," his wife Linda says. But Dan's kidney was a perfect match for their now 16-year-old son Kurtis: "I just think about that a lot."
Even if the match was found, the chances of it going to a man with only one kidney were not good. For a long time, the family thought he would be in remission, like his mother. Instead, his cancer progressed aggressively and he died recently at 50, a shadow of his formerly burly, athletic self.
In 2003, Twinn was diagnosed with Richter's Syndrome, which complicates the condition of people with chronic lymphocytic leukemia.
"He just couldn't seem to stay in remission -- he had chemotherapy after chemo-therapy," his sister Tina Nienaber says.
Twinn never hesitated to give up one of his kidneys for Kurtis. The toddler was near death in 1995 due to kidney failure.
"His words were 'Any normal father would do it for their son,'" says Linda, who was married to him for 23 years.
Kurtis was born with two kidneys; one failed at four months and the other never worked at all.
The family waited a year and a half for a match for a donor, but no luck. For most of his first three years, Kurtis was fed a nutritional supplement through a tube and received daily dialysis -- the first time such a machine was in a home, not a hospital.
"He was hooked up constantly," says Dan's sister. "He was starting to get (renal) rickets and not able to walk."
But his progress was quick after that.
Twinn's decision gave Saanich teacher Cean Legere the courage and confidence to donate one of her kidneys to her husband. Norm Legere played on a ball team with Twinn.
Twinn was much more than a kidney donor. He was a friend, athlete, loving brother to Todd and carpet-layer -- jokingly describing himself as a floor-laying technician.
He and best friend Dan Conners worked together on a large logo on the carpet in the Victoria Salmon Kings dressing room, spending 100 hours on it.
"He was so proud of it," Conners says. The two friends met when they were both in their 20s.
"They called us 'double Dans," he recalls of his friend of 30 years.
Athletics led him to his long second marriage. He and Linda hit it off instantly. "We both were married one year, and both separated before we met each other. He came to one of my ball games -- that was that," she says.
They were a case of opposites attract -- he was like a flowing river; she was like lightning. She loved the way he treated her two-year-old daughter, Krystle, from her first marriage like his own toddler, Tanya. They had two children of their own, Karlee and Kurtis.
Having kids brought out the kid in him. He liked to lie in wait for them on the floor of a hallway and when one came out a door unawares, grab their ankles to give them a scare.
Dan was a lifelong prankster, and Nienaber remembers spending months working on a gigantic jigsaw puzzle when she was 12.
Finally at the end, she was dismayed to be missing a piece. And immediately knew to run out of her room to find a grinning Dan holding the 'missing' piece. "He'd been waiting months for this joke to happen," she recalls.
He never wanted negativity around him. His favourite saying was, "Don't worry about it. It always works out."
He had "a huge heart," says Don Moore, who got to know him when he coached Kurtis in bowling at Mayfair Lanes.
"He was a generally happy guy," Moore recalls.
"I never saw him angry, ever, which is very rare these days. No matter what his kids did, he was there, cheering them on all the time."
But he and Kurtis were "like Siamese twins -- it was a great relationship, absolutely amazing," Moore says.
As well, he was "an awesome athlete," Conners says.
Twinn was once a star goaltender in ball hockey and took the Carlton Club Bruins to a provincial championship. The duo then helped found the Tally-Ho Blue Js slo-pitch team. He was star at over-40 slo-pitch, playing third base, ending up with the Foggers, which even last year he helped lead to a provincial championship, Conners says.
Conners still wears an armband that reads "Relentless" in memory of Twinn.
"He left us way too early."
Daniel David Twinn was born in Halifax on July 15, 1958, and died at Royal Jubilee Hospital on Oct. 30, 2008.
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